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I'm learning some aspects about 1st dating...this year alone I've been on a few which is cool but it's a process that I've noticed and I want to share what I've noticed.
Simplistic Approach
Search or be found: you search for or you're found, OR you flirt in whatever scene you're in and you find the connection.
Dating (1): you're suppose to be yourself, though in certain cases you are putting your best foot out there 1st, meaning that you're putting what you deem as your best qualities out there in hopes that the person you are currently attracted to will become more attracted to you. If you do dating sites, you get the spill of stating your "likes and dislikes" and if you're a person like me, I know what I like more than what i dislike and the dislikes usually occur during the process of me getting to know the individual more personally than just a "1st date"...Sooo, for the most part I don't like the statement "What are your likes and dislikes?"...it's soo soo vague. I would tell people that dating sites are cool, just be careful and go on there knowing what you want to do, be it flirting, dating or whatever...know what you want and that covers the process of dating in general.
Dating (2): This type of dating has surpassed "Dating (1)" because you know the individual more personally, I.e. you may have know them previously or you're friends and you both have found an interest there...this type dating can be cool to a degree. Reason being, you have to distinguish your feelings and become aware of rather or not you should remain friends or take it to the next level. I personally believe that friendships are important and if you realize that you have negatives that arise if you all were to move further, back-back and keep the friendship. I've realized with this type ordeal, realization comes thru consistent communication and conversation that is centered around both knowing what they want, which is essentially a relationship. As time progresses the tides can roll in different directions but it's up to both individuals to be aware of the action that comes with the tides which may yield a relationship or continues to develop & keep the friendship.
So, dating "I've found" has unique processes and observations to take note of. But throughout the whole dating scheme enjoy it and have fun!! It's an opportunity for you to relate to and get to know other people and in turn you definitely will get to know yourself. Psychologically, emotionally and spiritually we all are relational beings that require interaction. From the dating perspective, the interactions can yield a relationship, friendship or neither. Moreover, that is ok, it's apart of the process of life, really coming into a true understanding of what you "like and dislike" LOL!! But it's true...Enjoy life and the people in it. Take Care!!
