Thoughts of now...

It's been a while since I've posted...changes have definitely taking place...I would say some for the good and others for the bad, but I know within that "all things ARE working together for the good of THEM that love God and THOSE that are called according to HIS purpose"... So with that being said, everything is working out for my good (and yours) in its own timing as we continue to love God and seek to fulfill His purpose for our lives (Quick word of encouragement for you and me, eh? Yup yup, guess so)

I have experienced lately what it means to be challenged. Those challenges leave you at a point of definite discomfort in your psyche (how you view yourself in the situation) and your emotions (how you feel about yourself handling and being in the situation). It honestly leaves you "feeling like" a failure... Seriously, it does. But what I come to realize that staying in that "failure mode" or "failure feeling" is a state of mind that you have complete control over, whether to stay in it or not. 

I recognize that I have a tendency to stay in this state for TOO long, to the point where I make up situations (from thoughts...imaginations) based off solely off low vibrations, low energy, simply put, low feelings... These feelings unconsciously pile on to become a physical place of failure, if you don't decide to change your focus/mind on the situation. It's soo amazing how the mind is soo brilliant if you use it wisely and adversely so self-sabotaging if you use it wrongly. 

So, the question is, how do I "get out of my feelings"? How do I change my mind so I can see the reality of my situation and in the same breath, enjoy my present...my now. How?

I think it's by first:

1. Accepting the truth that you missed the mark somewhere... 

Simply put, the truth, that you honestly may have failed in your attempts to succeed in whatever area you failed in, which is ok, (saying this to myself now and hopefully it encourages you too). The truth hurts...but the truth breaks the yoke of false reality and pride, which is a definite demise to success... Pride is a B... #CarryOn but seriously it is, and if you remain in this imaginary world that you are right and everyone is wrong, please believe you will not succeed in that state... So, accept the truth!! Also, get around loving and truthful people (check your circles for the "Yes People...can we say #EpicFail... They do you "No Good"... Get around the truth, let people tell you that you're wrong about things, but also allow them to speak freedom to you with a "better perspective" on the situation... It can actually make you feel better (higher vibrations, higher energy, higher feelings...happiness, joy, and peace in your spirit...that's what you need right...Right!! A peace of mind). So, in saying all that, "the truth will make you free"... I rather be made free from the onset rather than be set free... I have the potential to be bound again... I need the truth to make me into a better and eventually a successful person.

2. Keep moving...don't stop

I'm about to finish this post, but this second thought just came to mind... Keep moving and don't stop... Failure I feel is a stopping point. Like a period or a "The End" kinda deal... That's not cool... I heard that "Quitters or Losers" and I'm not about that life... I'll ride the brakes off the situation before I quit and when I do that, I'll get some more brakes and continue moving forward if that is what the Lord God wants and/or is calling for in my life at that point... But, I do think that you can pause. You're not stopping, you're just "getting yourself together", "getting your mind right", reassessing the situation, reevaluating yourself against the situation to take a look at what you can do differently if you have to retake the test again (& please believe...you will retake the test again)... So, it isvdefinitely ok to pause, Selah, reflect on the present... You reevaluate and reassess, make the necessary changes, start the car of your life again and keep it moving...

My Youth Pastor says a few words before bible study ends... I don't remember everything but these few words, "Success is MANDATORY and Failure is NOT an option"... 

I accept the truth.

I keep moving.

I don't stop.

I succeed. 

I hope this helps you and encourages you just as its doing for me... We will succeed if we don't quit... #Simple #JustLikeThat

Peace and Blessings to you...Enjoy the rest of your day.

Thoughts from yesterday.... "Role Playing"

We all have roles to play in our lives. The funny thing is we have the opportunity to choose our roles. So, I suggest to others as well as myself to choose your role wisely and play it to the best of your ability. If you don't like your role and you can't get out of it right now, reflect & see what you can do to maximize the moment there & rekindle the initial flame that moved you to this role, until another role that fits you appears...

It's role playing in this life...Act it out to your best ability.

-TVCM-

Thoughts on the Words Maximizing & Capitalizing - A Reminder to myself

I was just thinking that NOW is the time to focus in on what matters most and "MAXIMIZING & CAPITALIZING" on the time, the opportunities, the positive ppl/connections, and the evident move or stillness of God that is taking place.

I guess and almost believe that doing this maximizing and capitalizing requires a determination and drive to succeed in the areas you want to succeed in and focus intently on what it takes to get there and being aware of God putting and/or moving you in the position to receive that that you earnestly desire...the question is: what is it that I truly desire from God? & do I really want it? 'Cause if you really want it, focus, determination, drive, initiative, proactivity, etc are the natural occurrences of what happens when you figure out what you want and make the conscientious decision that that desire is what I'm going after, no matter the cost... The thought then comes to mind, what is the desire of your heart, honestly? A gentleman at my job spoke to me briefly about wants and needs...he made the "suggestive view" that wants are good to have but can be rather misleading than needs, which have a more standard requirement...so, being biblically based in thought, God will give you the desires of your heart as your seek Him. He knows what you want and He can take care of all you need...it just requires a consistent relationship/communion with Him daily in every aspect of your life through communication (verbal & non-verbal), reading His Word, remaining aware & open to His guidance (moves, directions, etc), and disciplining your unresolved flesh wants and needs which can lead you away from Him and furthermore your earnest desire(s)...

So, having the imagination for better, the desire, the determination, the Spiritual backing will give you what you want/desire honestly in due time, before you know it...Believe this!! Just realize the things that aren't worth fretting, thinking, and being discontented over...that you are willing to change or that doesn't need to be changed or analyze over, anyway.

Focus on what matters the most...make clear distinction of that and move out on that desire and attain your promise...Be Blessed, Happy, Clear in Mind and Thought, at Peace, and Attaining & Achieving Your Goals & Making your dreams Your Reality!!

Cheers, Peace, & Blessings!!
-TVCM-

Just Some Random Thoughts... (From August 19, 2012...Sorry Just Posting)

What I will blog about today will be rather random, but they are my thoughts at this present moment...so deal, lol nah, I hope you get something from it as always...

I would say that I'm currently on an evident journey to a destination I feel I know soo little about at times and then a great deal about at times. I was talking to a person yesterday and I told them that my life is about experiences and all people can attest to that. But for me, I've embraced these experiences as a cultivated pathway to my destination in life. In thinking about destinations, it's kind of interesting. With the Christian "embrace", the predestined 'destination' is heaven or a place where we become immortal and we have fully embodied our true selves which is spirit...but not looking at that embrace, I feel that there are multiple destinations to get to or look forward to. I.e graduation from your institution, getting a job, obtaining an doctorate, having your business, your own family, buying a house. There are so many destinations or should I say pitstops...

-this blog will be added to more in the future...at least I think so...*shrugs*

-TVCM-

Live Fearlessly...Live Free!!!

So, this blog among the others have stemmed from a moment in my life of "self-realization". Saturday, I was praying, well this time seriously have a conversation with God like I was talking to my best friend (in which He is, LOL). The convo started from me being 'real' to myself about this week's events and things prior to it. I recognized that I was really disappointed in myself in how I handled matters that are really important. I had handled them through a state called procrastination. Truth be told, I'm still growing up and understanding some truths that go with being on your own and being successful in being on your own. The latter, by grace, is trial and error, but through faith, its a process that requires God's continuous direction and you consistently taking action and effective responsibility of your 'own'. BUT, I felt that I needed to dive a little deeper into the reasoning behind my procrastination and as you dive deeper, other things begin to appear on the surface, in which it did!! I realized, that procrastination's root is fear; indecision, comes from fear. As we know, God has NOT given us the Spirit of Fear, but ONE of POWER, of LOVE, and of A SOUND MIND. Let's use the "sound mind" portion. Within a sound mind, you have the keen ability to think for yourself, do for yourself, react, and make sound decisions...JUST THAT SIMPLE!! BUT, out of fear, we fail in operating and using the sound mind that has been GIVEN to us. So, in light of that fact, I recognized and was like "HOLD ON YO, WHAT'S REALLY GOOD TIFF?" I realized that I hadn't been walking in peace for YEARS, because I was operating in fear of not being able to do what I needed to do, when time came for me to do. Be it writing a paper (in which I must do now), doing an assignment, reading a textbook for a 'engineering class', buying clothes/shoes/car/etc, paying bills, meeting deadlines, and this list goes on and on (you probably can add to it as well). The fear, that spirit, was soo arresting, it hindered me from living. "I Can Do All Things Through Christ Who Strengthens Me"...that's simple isn't it, especially if you're a believer; but alas, I'm a believer and I procrastinated in fear of not being able to do what I needed to do at a given point in time. So, I realized that its time for me to "realistically" apply the Word of God to my life. Therefore, the aspect of fear in relation to procrastination I can successfully conquer and overcome by believing in myself and furthermore in the Christ that strengthens me to do everything I needed to on a "day-to-day" basis.

Consequently, I'm not finish dealing, LOL!! More came up that revolved around fear. For YEARS, I have wanted to be accepted, loved, appreciated, cared for, approved...I lived in the reality of fear of being rejected, being disapproved, misunderstood and soo much more...Fear is a crippling disease especially if not dealt with early in life, because in your adult life, heavier doses of treatment may be required of you to be healed...but I'm thankful that I can be healed #InJesusName LOL, but seriously, I can and I will be...The mental catharsis I experienced was mind blowing and life changing and the root of fear was exposed in my life in various surface issues that I am currently dealing with and overcoming. So, now in my new revelation in life and my life's motto, "Live Fearlessly...Live Free!!", I'm determined to adopt this way of thinking and living in my lifestyle and daily choices. Personally, I've found that fear has caused me to live a self-absorbed life, which consists of "self-importance" or "personal importance". In the book "The Four Agreements" by don Miguel Ruiz, he said that "Personal importance, or taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption that everything is about 'me'". Fear will cause you to live this way and you are subject to your own selfishness which is a major hindrance on/in your life. Selfishness keeps you "bound" from having the opportunity to open up (be self-less) and experience the freedom, power, love, and sound mind that God freely gives to us all. In a selfish state of mind and being, you are conformed to the habits of this world and society, which are inevitably soo very immensely negative, so the simple thing to do is conquer Fear..."That isn't as easy as you make it sound, Tiffany". True, it isn't because you are forced to deal with the reactions that come up from fear, especially if you take a stance on handling that and changing that so that you can live a fearless and free lifestyle...YOU GOTTA BE WILLING AND OBEDIENT, LOL!! But you really do; willing to handle fear and conquer it; and be obedient to the Word of God and follow the Spirit of God (which has liberty [freedom], power, love, and sound mind [peace, contentment]). This lifestyle change is one of discipline and one that calls for making a stand/stance that will go against the grain, but in the end will have a greater good and effect on you and especially those around you (family, friends, loved ones, strangers, heck the world).

So, I'm making a daily choice to "Live Fearlessly...Live Free" on my "day-to-day" basis...That motto goes on the job, with family, friends, strangers, in my whole life. It feels good to start walking in deliverance from Fear, because Fear is a root of evil, that can and obviously has the ability to tear up lives, communities, and abroad...and even in our own homes and individual life. I take a firm stand against it...even if its just to be at peace within myself and be legitimately happy...Heck, smh I'm all for it...Hopefully you are too, Peace & Blessings...

-TVCM-
"Live Fearlessly...Live Free"

1st: Dating

I'm learning some aspects about 1st dating...this year alone I've been on a few which is cool but it's a process that I've noticed and I want to share what I've noticed.

Simplistic Approach

Search or be found: you search for or you're found, OR you flirt in whatever scene you're in and you find the connection.

Dating (1): you're suppose to be yourself, though in certain cases you are putting your best foot out there 1st, meaning that you're putting what you deem as your best qualities out there in hopes that the person you are currently attracted to will become more attracted to you. If you do dating sites, you get the spill of stating your "likes and dislikes" and if you're a person like me, I know what I like more than what i dislike and the dislikes usually occur during the process of me getting to know the individual more personally than just a "1st date"...Sooo, for the most part I don't like the statement "What are your likes and dislikes?"...it's soo soo vague. I would tell people that dating sites are cool, just be careful and go on there knowing what you want to do, be it flirting, dating or whatever...know what you want and that covers the process of dating in general.

Dating (2): This type of dating has surpassed "Dating (1)" because you know the individual more personally, I.e. you may have know them previously or you're friends and you both have found an interest there...this type dating can be cool to a degree. Reason being, you have to distinguish your feelings and become aware of rather or not you should remain friends or take it to the next level. I personally believe that friendships are important and if you realize that you have negatives that arise if you all were to move further, back-back and keep the friendship. I've realized with this type ordeal, realization comes thru consistent communication and conversation that is centered around both knowing what they want, which is essentially a relationship. As time progresses the tides can roll in different directions but it's up to both individuals to be aware of the action that comes with the tides which may yield a relationship or continues to develop & keep the friendship.

So, dating "I've found" has unique processes and observations to take note of. But throughout the whole dating scheme enjoy it and have fun!! It's an opportunity for you to relate to and get to know other people and in turn you definitely will get to know yourself. Psychologically, emotionally and spiritually we all are relational beings that require interaction. From the dating perspective, the interactions can yield a relationship, friendship or neither. Moreover, that is ok, it's apart of the process of life, really coming into a true understanding of what you "like and dislike" LOL!! But it's true...Enjoy life and the people in it. Take Care!!

Recap...

Morning!!!

I just posted on facebook this thought that came to mind as I read, "Think and Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill. Check this out: "keep imaging greater...never lose your imagination...your image of greater...remember this: your thoughts become things...thinking wisely my friends, think wisely..." This right here is so true. I believe that some of us give up mentally our dreams and lose the desire (fuel to attain) to get, achieve, pursue and do what we dream of doing, fulfilling our purpose in life. Likewise, I just want to encourage you to keep dreaming and starting planning for what and where you want to go and be in this life...Like I have mentioned in the past posts, God has placed in us everything we need to be "holistically successful" in this life. We have in us the ability/power to have wealth, prosperity, great health and ultimately a wonderful life. Our God given talents and abilities should be used for the glory of God and it will also bring you blessings in return...I hear a lot of people say that your gift will make room for you and that accompanied with a dream equals a world of infinite possibilities.

Take courage my friends, take heart...There is a blessing in dreaming, there is a blessing in you being you...Be used by God on today and keep dreaming and accompany that with effective planning and allow God to manage the details and manifest the results...Keep moving forward towards the call on your life...You've dreamed it, now pursue it!! God Bless!!

-TVCM-

http://www.thinkgrowrich.com/